Dear mm and mmm:
I have read the comments you have left on my blog and I appreciate you both taking the time to share these.
Whitman is a very good school with high SATs and preparing students for some of the best colleges in the country. No question about it.
But Whitman, like any other high school, is not perfect nor will it, or any other high school, ever be. However, Whitman has some real problems right now that go beyond what is wrong at “most high schools”.
While I realize you two are probably in the majority about your feelings for Pat Lazear and the others and whether they committed the crime or not, the minority has been very vocal and I and others who publicly condemned or questioned those involved in this situation have been subjected to some of the most vulgar, dim witted, unreasonable and threatening messages from the minority.
Now, you both express concern about my claim that the teachers, coaches and administration should be held accountable for Pat and the other’s actions. I can understand how you might disagree based upon the type of person Robert Warren is/was and your own descriptions of the others, but if the coaches EVER said anything to them about their behavior and the student didn’t listen, did they EVER take further action? In other words did Wallich or Wetzel EVER make them miss a game or a match because of their behavior? Did Magathan or Goodwin EVER step in and use their authority? I’ll be honest that I don’t know the answer but I have a pretty good idea that it is “NO”.
Look at the incident from this past spring at Duke and the Duke Lacrosse Coach. Did he have anything to do directly with the alleged rapes? No. But he lost his job anyway because the program he ran was so loosely monitored that the team was allowed to behave in a way that they could be put in a position to be accused of rape and commit other acts which reflected poorly on the team and the University.
I have been involved in dialogue in the past with Coach Wetzel about the demeanor of some of his wrestlers and never once did he ever say they could or should have acted with more respect. Instead he defended their behavior as being “special athletes” who work hard and “deserve everything they can take”. I don’t think you have to look much further to see there is a problem brewing.
You both say you knew these five guys. Did you ever tell them to quit being idiots or did you just laugh at their antics? Peer pressure can go a long way. I am sure you know of kids at your school over the years who have broken a rule and gotten caught like drinking under age and not been punished because of some talent they have. Do you think that is fair? And if they get away with that or see someone similar to them get away with it, then what makes you or them think they can’t away with something more serious. Something like, well….I don’t know…maybe….ARMED ROBBERY?
As long everyone just looks the other way and doesn’t ask questions it will continue.
Yes, these guys have been through a lot and to be honest it will only get worse as time goes on. That comes with notoriety and fame. If Pat Lazear and the others want all the benefits of being a star or hanging out with a star, then they have to take all the criticism, too. And the blind “Whitman Faithful” who support them have to learn to live with it, too. If Pat Lazear had taken Whitman to states I am sure no one would be complaining about an article in the paper talking about what a great athlete he was.
I am sorry your school has had to take this much heat. But maybe if you, your friends, and all of your parents would put some pressure on the school to stop this kind of behavior before it reaches this level then maybe people could focus on the good things about Whitman and not just what these five kids did.
Ultimately Pat Lazear and the others are responsible for the choices they made. Their parents also probably carry some of the blame for not doing something earlier (Remember , there were warning signs in the form of credit card fraud).
But PLEASE do not be so naive to think that the at least one teacher, coach or administrator couldn’t have had some influence on at least one of these kids. If not directly, then indirectly by the way they responded to negative behavior.